”In the end what matters most is
how well did you live
how well did you love
how well did you learn to let go.”

Ideas for the words I share with you often come from many wonderful places. This quote, from an unknown source, is from a banner that hangs in my home.

How well did you live?

This story is about my friend, who, after losing a breast to cancer and concerned about her future, concluded that rather than worry about what she could not control, decided to live life; squeeze joy out of every moment. Since this epiphany, she has boated down the Nile, started dance lessons, and spent a day zip-lining. Zippity-do-dah! Her life is a perfect lesson for all of us from someone who knows how to live well. 

How well did you love?

This sentiment is dedicated to the loving partners that are caring for or have cared for a dying or infirmed loved one. From getting up half a dozen times a night in order to give comfort, to ensuring the love flows constantly during the practical everyday events and tasks. Often it is easy to focus on an illness, rather than on the love that has gone before and will continue long after. 

How well did you learn to let go?

In this month of Valentine’s and loving and romance and chocolate, make a decision to let go of the angst that may have flowed between friends and family members. Another friend recently reunited with her estranged daughter. The key, my friend said, was to let go of the painful events and focus on the love and the bonds that they enjoyed before the estrangement. Her eyes twinkle now when she speaks of their time together. 

So, in this month of loving, take to heart this quote and make a list of the ways that you can live well, love well and let go. Life is too short for anything else. Remember, also, to love yourself. So, give yourself chocolate. You have my permission.

I look forward to seeing you all at the 7th Annual Senior Living Senior Expo on March 6 at Pearkes Recreation Centre.

FEBRUARY 2012 SENIOR LIVING MAGAZINE VANCOUVER ISLAND